A power struggle collapses when you withdraw your energy from it. Power struggles become uninteresting to you when you change your intention from winning to learning about yourself.
We offer a 40-hour virtual Parenting Coordination training for professionals seeking to become trained parenting coordinators. Each participant will gain the knowledge, skills, and practical tools to work as a parenting coordinator from highly skilled professionals, including two lawyers, a psychologist, and a Family Law Magistrate. Graduates will receive a certificate of completion for a 40-hour parenting coordination training upon completion of all training modules. This training is consistent with the recommendations for comprehensive training of parenting coordinators, Appendix A, of the Guidelines for Parenting Coordination developed by the AFCC Task Force on Parenting Coordination (2019). This training also meets the requirements of Maryland Rule 9-205.2.
We offer several 4-Hour Advanced Parenting Coordination courses for professionals. From October 2023 through March 2024, we are offering the following courses virtually:
Course 1 – Preparing for Trial, Depositions and Subpoenas as the PC
(10/9/2023 and 1/19/2024)
While many Parenting Coordinators hone the skills of conflict resolution, coaching and educating parents, they may not be prepared for appearing in a court room. During this course, professionals will learn how to prepare for testifying at trial and depositions as a parenting coordinator. We will learn in depth what to do, and what not to do when you are responding to subpoenas and testifying as a fact witness.
In most jurisdictions a Parent Coordinator is NOT a confidential role. The PC may be called to testify. You will learn the difference between being a fact witness (a PC) and an expert witness (Not a PC). In this course you will sharpen your skills for those cases in which the Court has to make a decision. This course is intended for Parenting Coordinators, and is highly recommended for Best Interest Attorneys, and Family Law Attorneys representing parents in custody cases. This Course is also useful for Family Magistrates, Judges, and Family Court administrators.
Course 2 – Advanced Communication Protocols and Coaching for High Conflict Parents
(11/3/2023 and 2/7/2024)
This course takes a deep dive into advanced skill building for effective communication with high conflict parents. Should parents communicate with narcissists, abusers, cheaters, alienators? Should parents communicate only via apps? Can the PC communicate individually with parents, and how is that billed? When and why should parents communicate in writing, in person, or via video? When and how should parents communicate with their children together? How much should the PC monitor communications?
Professionals will learn about utilizing caucusing and coaching in the PC process, as well as when and how to communicate with others (attorneys, children, therapists, teachers, etc.). This course is the nuts and bolts of conflict resolution and is about elevating your practice to the next level. This course is intended for Parenting Coordinators, and is highly recommended for Mediators, Conflict Coaches, and Best Interest Attorneys.
Course 3 – The Business of Parenting Coordination – Improving Your PC Practice
(11/9/2023 and 2/26/2024)
The business of parenting coordination is sometimes the biggest obstacle to our family court system maintaining excellent PC’s on the roster. The practice must make money, and must be reasonable for the parents. Learn how to get referrals, establish effective rates, get paid on your cases, revise your PC agreement and proposed Court Orders for appointments, and learn how and when to bill for your time.
Be prepared to bring your questions to this course, and get specifically tailored feedback for your PC practice. This course is for seasoned professionals, as well as those new to the practice of Parenting Coordination. You will leave the course with materials for running your PC practice more effectively. This course is intended for Parenting Coordinators.
Course 4 – Parenting Coordination for the Resist Refuse Dynamic
(12/15/2023 and 3/13/2024)
Parental contact failure is dominating domestic cases. In this course, you will learn the evidence-based research on the Resist Refuse Dynamic, Parental Alienation, Justified and Unjustified Gate-keeping, The Family System of Conflict, as well as why so many strategies for addressing these cases are failing.
Professionals will learn a new model in which Parenting Coordination offers a possibility for successful outcomes in cases of contact failure and parental rejection. This course is intended for Parenting Coordinators, Best Interest Attorneys, Family Therapists, Mediators, Family Law Attorneys, Magistrates, Judges, and Family Court administrators.
No therapist-patient relationship and/or privilege is created between the Parenting Coordinator and the clients/parents. Communication between the Parenting Coordinator and the parties is not confidential. The role that is confused the most with Parenting Coordination is that of co-parenting counselor. The major difference is that co-parent counseling is a confidential process, and information gathered through co-parent counseling cannot be shared with the Court. They may appear to be the same service because co-parenting counseling assists the parents to work more effectively as co-parents for the betterment of the child. A Co-parent counselor lacks authority to report non compliance. Parenting Coordinators are expected to testify when needed. Therefore, monitoring of parental behaviors and compliance with court orders cannot be accomplished through co-parent counseling. Parent Coordination is a non-confidential process, and holds the behaviors and conduct of parents accountable Rarely do Parenting Coordinators have to testify. Usually the knowledge that the Parenting Coordinator could testify, is enough to compel meaningfully engagement and best efforts by each parent.
Adverse Childhood Experiences, or ACEs, are potentially traumatic events that occur in childhood (0-17 years) such as experiencing violence, abuse, or neglect; witnessing violence in the home; having a family member attempt or die by suicide. Also included are aspects of the child’s environment that can undermine their sense of safety, stability, and bonding such as growing up in a household with instability due to parental separation, substance misuse, and mental health problems. ACEs have been widely studied for thirty years.
“A large and growing body of research indicates that toxic stress during childhood can harm the most basic levels of the nervous, endocrine, and immune systems, and that such exposures can even alter the physical structure of DNA (epigenetic effects). Changes to the brain from toxic stress can affect such things as attention, impulsive behavior, decision-making, learning, emotion, and response to stress. Absent factors that can prevent or reduce toxic stress, children growing up under these conditions often struggle to learn and complete schooling. They are at increased risk of becoming involved in crime and violence, using alcohol or drugs, and engaging in other health-risk behaviors (e.g., early initiation of sexual activity; unprotected sex; and suicide attempts). They are susceptible to disease, illness, and mental health challenges over their lifetime. Children growing up with toxic stress may have difficulty forming healthy and stable relationships. They may also have unstable work histories as adults and struggle with finances, family, jobs, and depression throughout life—the effects of which can be passed on to their own children.”
-2019 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s publication, Preventing Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs): Leveraging the Best Available Evidence